10 Things I Learned This Winter

December 2020 - February 2021

Every season for the past few years I’ve reflected on and shared some of what I’ve been learning. It’s a practice I learned from Emily P. Freeman, and one that has consistently reminded me of the Lord’s faithfulness in my life - through the monumental and the mundane. This list is very much in-process. It’s what I’ve learned as well as what I’m learning. The practice of reflecting, remembering, is the true magic of these lists. Without further adieu:

1. God speaks the language of emotion. 

Somewhere along the way I picked up the message that emotions shouldn’t be trusted. I think this was a theme in the evangelical culture I grew up in, re: “preach the Gospel to your feelings” or “trust God, not your emotions.” I think there is truth in the encouragement to seek the Lord and “lean not on our own understanding” but I also think we’ve veered off the path of truth into some territory where emotions are dangerous or untrustworthy. The Lord created us as embodied creatures with heart, soul, spirit, and strength meant to work in harmony with one another. Our emotions aren’t distractions from God, they’re a gift that can point us to him! Curt Thompson writes, “Emotional states are not opinions to be countered. They are true experiences that require attention... If we ignore, deny, or debate these feelings, we are ignoring God’s messengers.” 

2. The “10,000 steps per day” goal originally started as a marketing campaign during the 1964 Tokyo Olympics.

Turns out 10,000 steps per day is less about a magic number of steps that determines how healthy you are and more about marketing. In 1964, a Japanese company released a pedometer called the Manpo-kei: “man” meaning 10,000, “po” meaning steps and “kei” meaning meter. You can read more about it in this BBC article.

3. Spiritual disciplines can be specifically practiced to counterbalance unhealthy patterns in our lives.

This strategic way of thinking about spiritual disciplines is new to me and I’m finding it so helpful. In her book Sacred Rhythms, Ruth Haley Barton has a list of examples for which spiritual disciplines can correspond to patterns of sin or unhealth in our lives. For example, noticing a pattern of envy and competitiveness can lead us to intentionally practice solitude and self-examination, anxiety and worry can be met with breath prayer and scripture reflection, patterns of discontent can be met with attending to desire, etc. 

4. The Nutcracker was created specifically to include a large number of children.

While preparing for Christmas, I watched the Disney+ documentary En Pointe about the School of American Ballet in New York. George Balanchine created the school and also created The Nutcracker. The sheer number of children cast in The Nutcracker is amazing, and that it was all so intentional makes it even more beautiful to me.  

5. The Silk Road sold billions of dollars worth of illegal drugs online and shipped them via the postal service to people’s homes.

I read the unbelievable true story of the Silk Road website in Nick Bilton’s book American Kingpin and man-oh-man was it wild. Silk Road was the first darknet market and mostly sold illegal drugs to people anonymously using the Tor browser and Bitcoins. From 2011 to 2013, your average Joe could log on to the site, order some LSD or cocaine, and it would show up in his mailbox a few days later - all anonymous and virtually untraceable. The size and scope of what the creator of Silk Road was able to build is absolutely crazy to me.

6. I love HIIT workouts...after I finish them. 

In the moment - when I’m working out and my muscles are on fire and my lungs are burning - I do not love HIIT workouts, not one single bit. But that good-tired feeling afterward is pure magic. (5b. How cool is it that God designed our bodies with endorphins that make working out something we learn to love and crave?)

7. Background music changes the atmosphere of my home. 

For the past few months, I’ve been making it a habit to play music in our home and it has such an effect on my mood. I’ve been turning on some quiet worship playlists in the morning and some folky music in the afternoons, and it has become such a simple delight.

8. Stretchy fabrics need a stretchy stitch.

With the patient help of my amazing mom, I learned how to sew a stretch stitch to make a car seat cover for this little baby on the way. It was so fun, but definitely takes more skill than I would have imagined (and much more than I currently possess.) My stretch stitch is functional at best, but I loved learning and creating something special for baby Pitts #2.

9. “Panera” means “bread basket” in Latin.

Thank you Google.

10. In so many of the most important turning points in Israel’s history, children are included and mentioned in Scripture. 

One of the things the Lord has been showing me in my Bible reading these last few months is how often children are specifically mentioned as being present for the reading of Scripture. I’m sure there’s a master list somewhere, but here are the few places I’ve noticed this so far: Joshua 8 and Nehemiah 8. In Deuteronomy 6:1-9 the Lord gives specific instructions about repeating Scripture to children, even including when and where and how! In Exodus 12, during the institution of Passover, Moses includes what to say when kids ask about what is happening around them. In 2 Timothy 3:14-15, Paul writes to Timothy saying, “You know those who taught you, and you know that from infancy you have known the sacred Scriptures, which are able to give you wisdom for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus.” The discipling of children is not an afterthought for the Lord; they’re not second-class citizens in the Kingdom of God or distractions from “true ministry.” Their inclusion is intentional, specific, and clearly valued by the Lord.  

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10 Things I Learned This Fall

September - November 2020

Every season for the past few years I’ve reflected on and shared some of what I’ve been learning. It’s a practice I learned from Emily P. Freeman, and one that has consistently reminded me of the Lord’s faithfulness in my life - through the monumental and the mundane. This list is very much in-process. It’s what I’ve learned as well as what I’m learning. The practice of reflecting, remembering, is the true magic of these lists. Without further adieu:

1. This year’s White House Christmas tree is from West Virginia. 

How cool is it that the tree inside the White House was grown in my very own state? 

2. Care tasks are not moral.

An empty laundry basket does not make me a better mother/wife/homemaker. Dirty dishes in the sink say absolutely nothing about me as a person. Care tasks are morally neutral - I am not a better or worse person if they are done or not done. Without the moral weight attached to them, I’m able to see care tasks - like dishes, laundry, vacuuming, cleaning the toilet, etc. - as tasks that increase the functionality of my home and life. Now I sweep the floors not because I think I’ll be a terrible mother if I don’t, but because I don’t like the feeling of crunching cheerios under my feet. I do laundry not because I’m trying to achieve some feeling of moral superiority, but because functionally I like my shirts to be easy to find in my closet. What a weight off my shoulders. (If you want to read a short, incredibly life-giving book about this, check out How to Keep House While Drowning by KC Davis.) 

3. The difference between semasiographic and glottographic writing. 

Semasiographic writing conveys meaning without reference to speech while glottographic writing represents the sounds used in speech. An example of semasiographic writing would be a circle with a line through it indicating something is not allowed, while the written phrase “not allowed” is an example of glottographic writing.  

4. The Twenty-fifth Amendment contains a section that allows the President to voluntarily (and temporarily) transfer his authority to the next in line of succession. 

Including this item on the list may lead to wild speculations about my political affiliations (which I intentionally keep private,) so allow me to clarify that this bit of information was learned by watching an episode of West Wing. I’ve seen this episode before many times, but never thought about how the Twenty-fifth Amendment exists in real life in the United States. What a wild thing. 

5. Pinterest has a feature where you can make sections on a board. 

Apparently this feature has been around for a while and I just never knew. But now I do. And now my Home board on Pinterest is blessedly organized into sections based on each room. Praise hands.

6. Winter is a season and Christmas is a celebration within that season. 

This year, I followed Myquillyn Smith’s advice in her brilliant new book - Welcome Home - and decorated my house for winter first and then layered Christmas decorations from there. Winter decorations, for our family, include diffusing warm spice smells like clove and nutmeg, bringing in pine branches from outside, and swapping out lighter blankets for cozier ones. I love that once December is over and we put the Christmas decorations away, our house will still feel seasonally decorated instead of completely bare. 

7. My body is constantly telling me what it needs. 

I listened to a podcast about living without food rules this past spring that started me on a journey of asking my body what foods it wants to eat. As I’ve been learning more about the foods I eat, it’s been so interesting to see how my body craves specific things at perfect times. For example: I was craving lots of cinnamon earlier in the fall (ya know, peak sniffle season) and it turns out cinnamon has been proven to help the body fight off infection and strengthen the immune system. In other ways, eating without food rules has looked kind of funny - this morning I ate two big bowls of caesar salad for breakfast, and a couple days ago I ate six (SIX. Half a dozen.) scrambled eggs for lunch. Maybe I need the protein in the eggs or the magnesium in the romaine. I’m learning to listen to and trust my body, and it’s been such a cool journey so far. (PS I’m starting to incorporate this with Abbie too. Yesterday she ate two whole apples - peeled and sliced so you don’t have to send me any messages ;) - and this morning she’s eaten three mozzarella cheese sticks in a row. I’m learning to trust her body too.) 

8. How to build a coffee table with my own two hands.

Our old coffee table had been broken for a few months and I couldn’t quite find another one I liked. So my mom and I decided to make our own! It took a couple weeks and a lot of trial and error, but I’m in love with what we made together!

9. “God isn’t saving his real work in each of our lives until we cross some threshold. He’s using it all. Right now. Today.” 

Lore Wilbert wrote some beautiful words about sanctification in this Instagram post. She has deeply changed my perspective on sanctification and trite, christian-y phrases like “nothing sanctifies you like marriage/motherhood,” and I’m better for it. I’ve been able to more clearly see the Lord at work in my life and in the lives of people I love and hold dear. God is not withholding sanctification from any of us - married or unmarried, mothers or not. He is constantly doing his best, most sanctifying work in all of us in each of our unique lives. 

10. Going to the movies is a gift.

This fall our movie theatre opened back up for a few showings and Josiah and I got to finally settle back into those (new and improved, leather!!) movie theatre seats. There’s something so magical about watching a movie on the big screen. We saw whatever we could, even movies we normally wouldn’t have ventured out to watch. Every one of them was a gift and such a fun way to spend a few evening hours. (It seems our theatre is changing things again for the month of December, so it may be awhile before we get to watch another movie on the big screen. I’m thankful we enjoyed it while we could!)

Photo by the lovely Jenna L. Richman Photography

Photo by the lovely Jenna L. Richman Photography

What I Learned: Summer 2020

June - August

1. Almost all turkeys eaten in the US are the result of artificial insemination.

If you’re thinking, “Wow, I didn’t expect this list to start with turkey sex,” I get it. Me neither. But isn’t this fascinating and also sad? Starting in the 1950s, turkeys were bred for the thickest, juiciest breasts because that is what consumers value most. Now, years and years later, those turkeys are actually physically unable to mate because of the size of their breasts, and so a shocking 100% of commercial turkeys are the result of artificial insemination. (If you want to read more on this, check out Barbara Kingsolver’s Animal, Vegetable Miracle; and if you want to listen to a super short podcast episode about it, check out this one.)

2. I really enjoy training for a half marathon.

Perhaps even more shocking than turkey sex ending up on this list is I’ve found I really enjoy running. There’s something about looking forward to an event and training for it that has brought me a lot of joy. (And I’m sure the endorphins help.) My body feels strong, my skin is glowy, and I’m watching as my times decrease from veryyyy slow to just very slow, with one “y.” Praise God. 

3. Sounds travel farther in damp, humid air. 

If you’ve ever wondered why birds sing the most in the morning, it’s because of the humidity in the morning air. Their songs travel farther because the moisture carries the sound along. I just love this!

4. There was a record-breaking heatwave in London in 1976.

This heatwave was actually the setting for a novel I really enjoyed this summer: Instructions for a Heatwave by Maggie O’Farrell. Who knew? 

5. Modern medicine is one of the ways I believe Jesus is “putting all enemies under his feet.” 

I don’t feel informed enough to have any strong opinions on eschatology (the theological term for studying the End Times), but I do fall into the camp of truly believing Jesus is putting all enemies under his feet (1 Corinthians 15:25) right now. I get squirmy when Christians talk about how the world is going downhill and getting worse and worse, because I see things around us like modern medicine that helps premature babies grow into healthy infants (!) refrigeration that keeps so many people from dying of foodborne illnesses that were commonplace a couple hundred years ago (!) and nonprofits that are working to better the lives of people all around the world and CAN because of technology. The world is far from perfect, but I think satan shook with fear when each of these things happened and he had less of an opportunity to steal, kill, and destroy. (If you want to read some better words on this topic from someone who has truly put in the work of studying it well, check out this blog post.)

6. Lopez Lomong - US Olympian and the flag bearer for the US in the 2012 Olympics - grew up in a refugee camp after escaping the killing fields of Sudan.

I read Lopez Lomong’s stunning memoir Running for My Life this summer and his life story is just incredible. It’s sad and hard to read, and hopeful and beautiful and inspiring. Lopez Lomong is a believer and beautifully traced the hand of God working through some really difficult circumstances in his life. 

7. The right book makes all the difference. (Subheading: I miss the Olympics.)

When I started listening to the book The Boys in the Boat by Daniel James Brown, I knew exactly nothing about the men's rowing team in the 1936 Berlin Olympics...and I didn't really have a great desire to learn. This book came highly recommended by a friend/my personal book whisperer, so I decided to trust her and man-oh-man was it delightful. I can't recommend it highly enough. The story is incredible and the way it's told is just magnificent. 

8. I prefer the term “physical distancing” over the term “social distancing.” 

I’m not sure why it felt like such a big deal to me to hear the term “physical distancing” instead of “social distancing” when my family and I visited Disney World this summer. It may have something to do with the way “social distancing” feels like it’s subconsciously trying to tell you that being social is bad or wrong somehow. Or it may have to do with the way “physical distancing” is a more correct way of saying what you mean - you don’t need social space between you and other human beings, you need physical space, physical feet of space, and you can be as social as you like from that distance. Regardless, “physical distancing” feels kinder and more accurate to me, and I wish it was the norm everywhere. 

9. The times when I am least likely to display the Fruit of the Spirit to the people around me are when I feel busy or hurried.

I haven’t quite finished The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark Comer, but if this is the only takeaway it was a worthwhile read. I am least likely to be patient, kind, joyful, peaceful, and loving when I feel rushed and busy. (Example: when I’m running late for something and Abbie kicks off her shoes for the twelfth time, I’m less likely to respond with patience than if I wasn’t feeling rushed.) It makes sense that I would notice that and reorder my life in such a way that I’m better able to love the people around me by, as John Mark Comer would say, ruthlessly eliminating hurry. 

10. Community is such a gift. 

Late this summer, I started gathering with a small group of women on Monday afternoons and it has been such a gift to me. We talk about Jesus’s work in our lives, pray for each other, laugh, and we’re often sent home with beautiful flowers (thank you Shyla!) I had been longing for this kind of community since my time at Liberty and I’m just so grateful for this gift from the Lord!

Photo from my dear friend Shyla’s Evening in the Garden Workshop

Photo from my dear friend Shyla’s Evening in the Garden Workshop